There are two main ways to understand the details in your life as a couple: • Details that are the real minutia. That only get in the way and get your relationship derailed; or • Details we need to investigate to see what is going on deeper, underneath Scenario 1 It’s a Friday night and a man and a woman have just finished eating pizza. “What’s for dessert?” says the woman. “I’m having applesauce” says the guy. “I want thin mints!!” says the wife. (Girl Scout Cookie season don’t ya know) “Are you suuurrrre you want thin mints?” Pause. “Ok,” she says, “Bring me an applesauce.” The next evening the [...]