Control Archives ⋆ Mike and Susan Dawson

Compromise isn’t giving up my way – It’s Making our Relationship Great!

michaeldawsonlpc@gmail.com2024-01-08T01:13:54+00:00Connection, Control|

Susan and I believe there is a misconception among couples about the term “compromise.” They think it means they have to meet in the middle every time and that each will give up a lot of things to make that happen. As a result, they can’t help but look at compromise as a bad word. How they get there just … feels … yucky — and everyone loses. Honestly, folks, compromise shouldn’t be that way! You have needs. I have needs. We have needs together! So, let’s compromise! A compromise (or compromising) should be a win-win for both the husband and wife. It’s where both of you feel good about [...]

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Removing Negative Things From Your Marriage: The Power Of One

michaeldawsonlpc@gmail.com2024-01-08T01:14:03+00:00Care, Control|

Have you ever noticed that you spend so much time putting good things back into your marriage that you forget to do anything about the bad stuff that was already there? Of course not! Putting positive things in — generosity, fun, love, respect, etc. — should cancel out the negative stuff. Right? Well, not exactly. As much as we preach putting positive things into your marriage, it’s not enough. For every good thing that goes in, something bad must come out. That's the Power of One - You have the ability to do this on your own. The good news is that we are here to help get you there [...]

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Got Anxiety? Let’s All Just Take A Nice Deep Breath

michaeldawsonlpc@gmail.com2024-01-08T01:14:13+00:00Control, Stress|

"Breathe. Just Breathe." Those were the words of Master Jedi Luke Skywalker as he trained Rey in Star Wars: The Last Jedi. And, naturally, Rey made it look so easy, right? In mere seconds, Rey reached out and connected with The Force in ways she never imagined — by merely breathing, the anxiety disappeared. Now, you may be thinking, "Well, that's Hollywood for ya!" True. But in real life, Luke's message to take a nice deep breath can just as easily help us relax and, like Rey, see the bigger picture. So why don't we do it enough? Well, you can point to many culprits. Perhaps the biggest is anxiety. [...]

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There’s A World of Difference Between Throwing a Tantrum and Having Anger

michaeldawsonlpc@gmail.com2024-01-08T01:16:43+00:00Control, Emotion|

We’ve all experienced these scenes of emotion. This makes me feel extremely uncomfortable since I’m the gal who is always trying to make everything peaceful so people will get along. Blog from Seth Godin – A note to the customer who just had a meltdown. Or the bride without a perfect wedding. Perhaps the rental car customer who had to wait twenty minutes. To the boss who’s furious that the delivery wasn’t as promised. We heard you. We, as in the people you were seeking to impact, and we as in the rest of us as well, the innocent bystanders. Actually, we heard you the first time. Ever since then, [...]

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Can shutting down Emotion help me stay in control?

michaeldawsonlpc@gmail.com2024-01-08T01:16:52+00:00Control, Emotion|

Emotions are essential to all logical decision making. Years ago it was commonly accepted that our brain had a reasonable side and an emotional side. The thought was that we controlled our emotions with reason. So how can we handle our emotions and still make high level decisions? It’s the last week of the quarter and sales numbers are not where they should be according to the goals set by corporate. The regional office is buzzing with activity as all associates are trying to close that last deal to make those corporate goals. There’s electricity in the air that you can almost feel as everyone is digging in to find [...]

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Control in Marriage – The Way it Really Works

michaeldawsonlpc@gmail.com2024-01-08T01:16:56+00:00Control|

Control in marriage. Really? You hear about it all the time, but usually in a negative connotation. “He/She is controlling.” “Everything is his/her way.” “I can’t be myself.” That’s because control in this meaning is about pressure, force, power, manipulation and sometimes even domination. But we all desire to have some control over, or in, our lives. Control is a very natural part of who we are because we are created to live free. We have a free will that desires to manage our own actions or emotions, and even the overall outcome of what our life is to be. It’s really all about INFLUENCE Research on couples show that the [...]

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