Love

15 Simple Ways to Reignite Your Love

2019-08-14T16:08:42+00:00Intimacy, Love|

When Mike and I met in college it was unusual circumstances.  His sister was a dorm mate of mine and introduced us the first time.  She gets credit for our meeting.  However, we didn’t get to know one another until a year later in a business fraternity.  It was passion at 2nd sight you might say. Remember When... Remember how it used to be when you and your spouse first fell in love.  We were so sweet and passionate about each other. The two of us would stay out for hours, walking across campus or sitting in the dorm lobby, just getting to know one another.  We talked about so [...]

HOW YOU CAN INFLUENCE THE BALANCE IN YOUR LOVE BANK?

2019-05-15T19:12:14+00:00Connection, Love|

" This is a simple concept and yet many marriage problems come from people not implementing the concept. It’s not that people don’t know or understand how to do this – They just DON’T DO IT. THE LOVE BANK- Dr. Willard Harley Inside all of us is a Love Bank with accounts in the names of everyone we know. When these people are associated with our good feelings, "love units" are deposited into their accounts, and when they are associated with our bad feelings, love units are withdrawn. We are emotionally attracted to people with positive balances and repulsed by those with negative balances. This is the way our emotions [...]

Falling Back Into Love

2018-09-06T23:24:28+00:00Hope, Love|

How often have your heard someone say, “I love him/her, but I’m not IN love anymore”? Or, maybe you’ve said this, and have gone through these thoughts and feelings yourself. Did you know that this is a common experience that many couples have in their marriage? Seasons like this can feel hopeless. And while we are in this state, because our feelings seem so strong, our emotions seem like the only truth; we can’t grasp that our feelings might and in fact can change. We cannot even picture being in love with this person again. It feels like and seems like our love is lost and it cannot be regained. [...]

Do You Feel Unloved In Your Most Important Relationship?

2018-08-17T14:16:19+00:00Anger, Love|

“Most of mankind’s misery stems from feeling unloved.” I read this quote the other day and felt a deep sense of sadness and the truth it conveys. So much of the pain, sorrow, and desperation we see revolves around feeling unloved. Under that heading of unloved comes these subheadings: Unaccepted Ashamed Below Hurt Insecure Angry Less Than Inferior Worthless These feelings of being unloved stem from a multitude of emotional injuries in our lives that may or may not get resolved. But there is always hope, and there are ways of addressing those feelings and being able to navigate relationships in a healthy way. However, it’s not an easy road, [...]

Loyalty vs. Trained Response-Which do you want in your marriage?

2018-03-15T17:50:47+00:00Love|

Lots of times when we use the word loyal it applies to our pets.  Dogs usually give us a ton of unconditional love and affection just because we provide them with food, shelter and attention.  Our Labrador can’t wait for either of us to come home anytime day or night.  She’s always there with a smile on her face and entire butt wagging with abandon!  That is loyalty on four legs.  You can also train a dog to come you when call them but loyalty is more automatic. Loyalty could also be demonstrated in the brave Olympian Lindsey Jacobellis just snowboarded in her fourth Winter Olympics.  She is amazingly loyal [...]

Behaviors of Love-Are you Busting or Building?

2017-11-30T17:03:32+00:00Love, Relationships|

How do you describe love? Ask ten people and you will get 10 different answers to this question about love. They will range from: A feeling Something deep and mysterious An emotion Actions you do A place that can be painful and you need to guard Lost it, long for, and must have it But most would agree LOVE IS certainly profound, multifaceted and mysterious. LOVE’S ASSOCIATIONS WITH FEELINGS As a counselor, I see love mainly through the actions in how we treat others in relationships, and also the words we use to show others value and importance. Now love itself may not be a feeling; but there are certainly [...]

Smiling Really Does Show the World All the Love in Your Heart

2017-10-19T23:51:00+00:00Love|

You've got to get up every morning With a smile in your face And show the world all the love in your heart Then people gonna treat you better You're gonna find, yes you will That you're beautiful, as you feel Lyrics from Beautiful by Carole King These lyrics above may bring to mind an image of a 70’s music festival where everyone “loves” each other and all is right with the world.  Actually, this Carole King song was originally released in 1971 and the world was 2 years post-Woodstock but currently experiencing inflation at 4.3%, Voting age had just been lowered to 18 in the US and the Vietnam [...]