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Turning Regret Into Gratitude

Glenn Kimball2024-01-08T01:16:37-06:00Emotion|

“It’s not joy that makes us grateful, its gratitude that makes us joyful.” Ever have regrets? Carry them around with you all the time? But, what about the value of your regrets? Value of regret? If you are like most of us, regrets usually lead us toward a foul mood. They make us feel like a failure, and it is hard to take our minds off of the negative circumstances and events that we now regret. Regret tends to make us focus on ourselves and becomes self-condemning, that feeling of being a failure. When we focus on our performance, it is easier for us to look for ways to improve [...]

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Retirement and How It May Affect Your Marriage

Glenn Kimball2024-01-08T01:16:38-06:00Expectations, Relationships|

Retirement is a huge subject of concern for 10,000 Baby Boomers who turn 65 every day and have hit or are about to transition to this next stage of life. As a couple, there are some basic relationship guidelines that can help you both prepare for this stage and make the move less stressful. It may even make retirement fun. I know lots of couples who have made the transition (maybe not super smoothly), and have grown closer as a couple as they learned to thrive in this new stage of life. Good Things about Retirement: 1) More time together to pursue common interests (travel, family, sports, hobbies) 2) A [...]

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Couples Say These Doable Things = Great Marriage! We Agree!

Glenn Kimball2024-01-08T01:16:39-06:00Marriage, Relationships|

Couples need to periodically reflect on the good times in their marriage. It benefits them to remember the characteristics of their partner that they admire and respect. This helps them go back in time, past the more difficult events and circumstances in their lives together. It helps them focus on the more positive traits. Men and women both can tell you what it is they like about their partner, and what attributes make up a great relationship. How do we know? Because we ask them! All couples have strengths in their relationship and enjoyable qualities. We know this from the standard questions we ask every couple. It doesn’t mean there aren’t problems, conflict and stress in their lives. But it does mean that [...]

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Why Every Couple Needs Goals!

Glenn Kimball2024-01-08T01:16:40-06:00Accomplishments, Goals|

Ask couples what they really desire in their relationship, and there will be many varied answers. But those answers come down to closeness and intimacy. We all want to move through time with our loved one in ways that make us feel we have a sense of purpose with each other. We need a vision of a happy future; that we can share and make our dreams happen together. Couples want to know their partner will be there for them and they will work as a team to make their life meaningful. However, many couples get stuck as they move through time together because of HOW they deal with the [...]

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Dear Harry and Meghan, Congratulations!

Glenn Kimball2024-01-08T01:16:41-06:00Marriage|

Unless you don’t go on the internet or watch the news, then you know that the Royal Wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle took place in the last couple of weeks. It’s estimated nearly three billion people tuned into the event. That’s over one-third of the world’s population. The Dawson household was one of them. The Royal Wedding Queen Elizabeth and Prince Phillip (Married 11/20/47) – 200 Million on the Radio Prince Charles and Diana, Princess of Wales (Married 7/29/81) – 750 Million on Television Prince William and Kate, Duchess of Cambridge (Married 4/29/11) – 2.2 Billion on Television and Social Media Prince Harry and Meghan Markle (Married 5/19/18) – [...]

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Watch out! Anger is on the Loose.

Glenn Kimball2024-01-08T01:16:42-06:00Anger, Emotion|

A common occurrence in many couples or family interactions is anger. We generally think of it as a behavior more than an emotion. But anger is, first of all, an emotion and one that we ALL experience at one time or another. We have said it before. It is important to differentiate between the feeling of anger and the expression and behavior of anger! This feeling is also a reaction to a perceived threat. It is not just a single emotion but ranges on a continuum from annoyed, frustrated, upset, irate, furious, and enraged. In addition to a wide description of emotions, it also has many other characteristics. Definitions of [...]

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Are You Rejecting Your Partner’s Influence?

Glenn Kimball2024-01-08T01:16:43-06:00Communication, Conflict|

People who take their partner’s influence into account during their decision-making process will have less negative outcomes and heated emotions in their conflict. How do we know? First, Proverbs tells us that, pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take advice. Second, research (Gottman, Christensen, and Jacobs) on couples and relationships bears this out. And, ask any psychologist or counselor, and they will tell you the same. My personal experience with couples leads me to this conclusion. Let’s take a look at why. Debbie wants to go to her parents’ home in Seattle for the holidays, which is a norm for her and her husband, Dave. [...]

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There’s A World of Difference Between Throwing a Tantrum and Having Anger

Glenn Kimball2024-09-19T10:18:15-05:00Control, Emotion|

We’ve all experienced these scenes of emotion. This makes me feel extremely uncomfortable since I’m the gal who is always trying to make everything peaceful so people will get along. Blog from Seth Godin – A note to the customer who just had a meltdown. Or the bride without a perfect wedding. Perhaps the rental car customer who had to wait twenty minutes. To the boss who’s furious that the delivery wasn’t as promised. We heard you. We, as in the people you were seeking to impact, and we as in the rest of us as well, the innocent bystanders. Actually, we heard you the first time. Ever since then, [...]

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OOPS! Did I Push Your Buttons?

Glenn Kimball2024-01-08T01:16:44-06:00Conflict, Fear|

Do you and your spouse get into those “cycles?” Those patterns that seem to go round and round to where it feels like you just keep pushing each other’s buttons? Take heart, you are not alone! Almost all couples create cycles over time that can keep them on the proverbial roller coaster of relationships. The Fear Dance The “destructive dance” most couples get into generally stems from some source of fear. Men and women alike have basic core fears. The two most basic fears are: • Loss of power, or feeling controlled. This is usually a man’s greatest fear. Men want to feel they are good at what they do, [...]

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Demo Four Time Wasting Communication Walls

Glenn Kimball2024-01-08T01:16:44-06:00Communication|

“What do you mean, I DIDN’T CLEAN UP THE KITCHEN? Remember, it’s YOUR TURN! I cook – you clean, those are the rules. Don’t try and pawn this off on me. You’re the one who didn’t hold up your end of the bargain.” Sound Familiar? Why is it when we have a conflict with our partner, it seems like there’s a wall between us. Nothing gets resolved, and we end up more frustrated than when we started. 4 Communication Walls that Will De-Rail Every Conflict Blame Game. Trying to pin responsibility for what happened on the other person. Whose fault is it that such and such happened? Sounds just like [...]

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